to everyone who is losing things like concerts and senior proms and commencements and brunches they’d had planned forever and literally anything they’ve been looking forward to i’m sorry. i really am. it sucks and i’m sure there will be people in your life who will tell you to get over it because others have it worse right now and while it may be true that others have it worse that doesn’t make your pain, disappointment, or sadness any less real or valid. keep your head up.
my sister’s wedding was just cancelled by the venue. when I told one of my friends how upset she was and how heartbroken we all were to have worked and planned so much, she just said “well, it’s good.”
i understand that there is illness and people at risk, but the callousness of it shocked me, just as she was unmoved by my other sister being sent home her senior year, losing her research job, putting all the cells in the freezer, three years of work, her thesis, graduation -
“oh, everyone is doing that.”
your loss is valid. god and even if you are hearing about someone’s “inconsequential” thing they loved - a concert, a brunch - you don’t know if that’s the thing they’ve been sticking around for or not. so just like fucking chill and be kind: it hurts for everyone, in different ways. you aren’t being selfish for losing something you loved.
