Anonymous asked:
beevean answered:
Don’t tell me about it…
It’s childish and petty, plain and simple. When your peak sense of humor is “lol straighties” (or cissies, or whities, or what have you) you have to acknowledge your life is pretty boring :V
But that’s not the point. The point is that constantly bleating “i hate straight people/straight people are inherently homophobic/abusive/lol i’m so happy i’m gay and i don’t have to deal with straight nonsense” is damaging to all sorts of people:
- to young straight cis people who frequently use the internet and get bombarded with the message that they should be ashamed of themselves for something they have no control over (and maybe try to force themselves to identify as LGBT+ to become part of the cool crowd) - there’s no such thing as “lol get off the internet” anymore, that’s how ignorant people dismiss cyberbullying and it won’t take long until this shit seriously affects real life
- in particular, it mocks straight women for being attracted to men, allowing all sorts of misogyny if you put “straight” in front of “women”, and it mocks straight men for existing (not that everyone here remembers that straight men are human, but anyway)
- to young gay people, lesbians in particular, who get bombarded with the message that there’s no such thing as an asshole/abusive gay person, because that won’t backfire!
- in particular there is this tendency to say that the way lesbians are attracted to women is different from the way straight men are, because straight men treat women as sex objects while lesbians treat them as people. Which would be your standard misandry, if there wasn’t the implication that being sexually attracted to a person is bad, and it’s harmful, and lesbians are better because they’re purer and don’t think about sex when looking at a woman. Sure, go tell a young lesbian in the middle of puberty who is starting to struggle with her identity that being attracted to a woman’s boobs is an insult to said woman and it harms her. I’m sure her conservative ultra-religious old parents will agree with you.
- to bi/pan people who feel rejected from both sides, who get called bihets if they get in a relationship with a person of the different sex, who get called straight-passing as an insult - and at worst, if they’re a woman abused by a man, get blamed for it because, well, what did you expect getting with a man? too bad for you for not picking a woman, idiot :V (as if women can’t be abusive of course, it’s amazing how all sorts of bigotries intertwine)
- to straight trans people who get mindlessly lumped with cishets and called oppressors and all the bad names reserved for cishets, which sends the message “yeah you may be oppressed, but you’re not oppressed enough, you know? therefore yeah we don’t care as much about you”
- to the entire LGBT+ community because in America young people are getting less tolerant of the community, and while I’m sure there are many factors leading to this worrying trend, the fact that the most vocal members constantly push allies away because “eww you’re a stupid cishet what could you possibly understand?” certainly doesn’t help. No, it’s not fair to become seriously homophobic because of a couple of asshole kids on Twitter, but you can’t really blame potential allies for going like “okay, screw you guys, if you think I’m inherently oppressive why should I put the effort to better myself? You’ll never be happy anyway”
Spouting anti-straight nonsense doesn’t help anyone. It certainly doesn’t help the gay people in the world actually being kicked out of their home, assaulted or killed. You’re just children who found a new playground and realized, hey, now it’s my turn to be a bully!
More important, laughing over “evil cishets” and saying shit like “uuuuuu upsetero” does nothing good for lgbt people. It won’t stop somebody’s homophobia, it won’t return rejected lgbt teen to their family, it won’t give money to the social fund.
It just upsets people and does nothing than that.
